University. Something Romanticized by Movies. I realize that University will not be a fun exercise but I realize that taking more than 3 gap years is. . . unadvised. The problem is, no one wants to read an uninteresting subject over and over again as a form of studying. NO ONE LIKES DOING BORING STUFF!! I like watching movies and googling funny pictures and sleeping late. The problem with doing all these simple things is. . . well, it's boring. Our sub conscience KNOWS we don't want to be on a permanent vacation and our conscience knows we don't want to do hard work. so in other words. we can't win.

Or can we? what if we found something called a passion? IT, Chemistry, people, charity, art, drama, law, politics, science, mechanics, education, environment etc.  And we were so passionate we endured the boring balancing it with the vacation type activities called hobbies and eventually BAM!!! we're qualified within the field of our passion and we can still continue with our hobbies. It's easy to see benefits that lie far in the future. but doing the hard work. . . is doable. but, it's only doable if you have a passion.

Okay so.

•  point 1:  never avoid life, it'll just go on without us, we'll lose time and grow far too familiar with regret. 
• Point 2: find a passion
• point 3: if you have no passion don't use it as an excuse! that's rude! just go to a university and do a career assessment. look at their subjects and do a general degree with subjects you like. when you figure out what you want you can add your credits to the new degree choice. 
• point 4: go to university.
• point 5: if you can't afford it apply for financial aid because pride is for people who want to live in a shack. if you don't get it don't give up, look for bursaries. look for future employees and write up a proposal for them. be a pest. don't give up... winners never quit and quitters never win. 
• point 6: Live. push yourself but live. 

OK.... so this is us growing up. sometimes we've got to put the life questions aside and choose to live. we can't read about someone else's life any more and get distracted. we can't watch movies about these things. we need to live it. and whist studying and working hard isn't a vacation. it's a process of life. one that we need to discover for ourselves. and I for one can't wait to live. and I completely understand that right now I am excited and I'll get more disheartened when the hard work comes. . . but, having something to complain about creates groups. creates connections. creates friendships and laughter and just. . .LIFE! so... lets go live :)

So this is ButtonGirl .....popping in........... and falling off this coat. Peace. 

Hey folks.... so it's been a while.... like 5 months or so... I'm good at that whole keeping up with peeps thing :P

I was reading a post by some other blogger on the wonderful creation of the interweb... except this blogger was .....misguided.
we are all entitled to an opinion unless we think our opinion is Fact and it's simply WRONG! I respect people who love God, God is a great guy to Love {{I Love that guy}} but I get incredibly irritated when people make use of the word "Evil" in the wrong text.

one must be very careful with how they say things. Words are weapons often used by us, against our will. what I mean is we often say things without malicious intend that result in the pain and hurt of another.
this man said that a certain action was Evil, when he should have said sinful. If we imply that an action we do is evil, it gives us reason to believe we are evil when we are not. This just makes us defensive and hurtful and makes us want to lash out at others...

SO my lovely people out there.... let's be careful with your words because they affect others. in a good way and a bad way... if you are going to say something that is negative, if it's not constructive don't say it, if it is... be very sure to explain yourself and end on a gentle note.

to end this post.... Words are Power...your words could start a war or prevent one. and to quote spiderman's uncle "with great power comes great responsibility" choose to show Love at all times with your words and it'll come back to you... choose to use bitterness with your words and it'll hinder you each day of your life.


so........this is ButtonGirl popping in..................and falling off this coat.....peace.

Lets Understand this. . . just Give us a sec will ya?

Oh goodness I should Update a post!!!! HIY!!!!
so?. . . how you been crackalacking homies??? <--- OK I promise not to promise to never do that again. . .  but I just got into a weird mood... my badness! <--- that was said in some movie with a poem about light...{{nods head}}

so "vaat iz ziz zing doing herrre???" Glad you asked - I'm visiting. . . :D :D :D

OK! lets start making points. I got sooo irritated the other day...#truestory I was seriously shoved in a corner <metaphorically of course, I wouldn't go literally into a corner, I'd fight that> any way I was shoved to the side, disregarded treated like an adolescent normally is by people almost triple our age. . . why??? because they refuse to believe we have words of worth... I gave myself time to calm down so, no worries this post is not me complaining. . .

firstly we all have flaws that we are unable to realise, so no judgement is passed here. but sometimes, we need to have someone point out these flaws to us, because we can hurt people. . .so...

age, People who are old enough to be our parents - along with our parents - act like they have all the answers when they're not fooling themselves and they're not fooling us. this BTW is quite an unhealthy thing, we need to be taught that our parents don't always have the answers - only Google does -  but acting like you have all the answers, isn't a good thing either. NO ONE, I shall repeat NO ONE knows everything, again, that is Google's job!
sometimes we slip up and think we might have the best answer, but that can sometimes just be pride talking.
Parents don't want you to doubt them and think they don't know best because they think you'll end up being disrespectful. They actually think they won't have control and you'll end up going off the rails. you are their responsibility till the day you die in their eyes, if you come home pregnant, they'll freak but it'll be because they'll be mad with themselves, "where did we go wrong?" . . .  Other parents are proud, they don't think they can go wrong, so they ignore everything that does go wrong... some are too submissive to you because they're afraid they'll lose you.
point? Parents are humans. They're people. same with teachers, professors, boss's etc. sometimes, they need you to sit them down and tell them where they are going wrong. . . in a way that is totally respectful and loving - they're still your parents, they deserve respect for going through life with you -  sometimes, you need to tell them how you feel, how the things they say and do affect you and how you would prefer them to act and talk, try to make them understand that all you want is for them to understand and trust you. maybe just act like they love you. whatever it is. in my experience, talking helps - NOT shouting, no mesg gets through when it's just angry people shouting at each other. be open to criticism, because you're human too, you do things that hurt others, even if you don't see it. have a two way conversation and NEVER give or take a lecture, lectures never work, if your parents sit you down for a lecture, participate, if they ask you to speak or explain yourself - do. even if you think they won't understand, especially then, and tell them that you don't think they'll understand. . . they might surprise you.

we all have something to teach, we all have something to learn. no matter our age or experience we have something to give... you can learn so much from your parents, just as they can learn so much from you. . . just as much as you can learn from a stranger, just as much as a stranger can learn from you.
always keep an open mind, if you disagree, that doesn't mean you have to dislike a person, always show compassion; people have their reasons for doing the things they do, the best you can do is try to understand them and show compassion. even if you don't always like the things they do, actions are not as person, a person isn't the choices they make, or the mistakes they've made. Don't treat people like they are the actions they take or mistakes. they're all worth the stars and more and we've all got mistakes to make and lessons to learn, that doesn't mean we're any less than what we are - perfect. it's not about the fact that someone fell, it's the recovery they make when they get up, and when we trip there will always be the group feeling pity, the ones that laugh, the ones that try and help, the people that tripped you to start with, and none of that matters, what matters is getting back to feeling AWESOME. back to feeling Joy. . .  why wallow in simple matters when God made Flowers? <--- why find the sad things in life, why concentrate on the things that irritate you the people that treat you like you not old enough to understand, the child that thinks your too old to understand, why focus on that? when there are things that are good in the world too? when there are people who do understand you? focus on the good starting with the simplest thing - like flowers - and work your way up... you'll find a reason to smile.

so remember, speak, don't shout, and wait to calm down before speaking. love. Try to understand. Try to make people understand you. Never Give Up. Hug a bit more, Laugh a bit more. remember, you're not the only one who has a bad day, someone acting like a Jack@$$ 10 to 1 is probably having a terrible day too. don't add to his grief, just try to understand...:) smile at them maybe, even if they don't smile back. . .

so, may God bless you, even if you don't believe in him. . .  and a MERRY CHRISTMAS!!! <--- don't ask, weird mood remember? :D :D :D  fun times ;) keep the currant rolling!

AAAAHHHH!!! COWS ARE SOOOO CUTE!!! :D :D:D

so it's been fun :D I gotta roll for now :D

so this is ButtonGirl Popping in............................... and falling off this coat..........peace

to get you need to give. To give, you first need to get.

why the random video???.... cos I happen to think he's amazing... and it's called superman... and that just happens to be my FAVOURITE super Hero... well it's a tie between Wolverine and Superman... they're both super cool... and both guys as I've just realised... but I wouldn't read too much into that... I think it's just a coincidence... ANYWAY!

HAPPY AUGUST! ... lets formulate a list of all the happenings in August....

1597 AD =  Germany throws out English sales people <--- hahaha

1860 AD =  Nation's 1st successful silver mill (Virginia City, Nev)

1866 AD = World's 1st roller rink opens (Newport RI)

1909 AD = SOS - 1st used by an American ship, Arapahoe, off Cape Hatteras, NC

1929 AD =  Babe Ruth becomes 1st to hit 500 homers (off Willis Hudlin of Cleve)

1984 AD = During a radio voice test Pres Reagan joked he "signed legislation that would outlaw Russia forever. We begin bombing in 5 minutes" haahaha, I don't hate Russia, I just think it's funny... :)

1989 AD =  "Nightmare on Elm Street 5: Dream Child" premier!!! :D with Jonny Depp!!!! :D: :D :D

2011 AD = {{insert your name}} does . . . . . .  

what are you going to do this August that would be considered important... not necessarily important to the world, but to you?... something that would go down in your personal history book as an important thing, an important date, an important happening... good, bad or funny... be bold, be impulsive, make a memory... there is no reason you shouldn't have a memory made at least once a month... :) change a life, if you can't change anyone else's, change your own.. make it better then it is, if it's already amazing... make it better. Never just settle because you feel you'll never get anything better, never think that you're not worth it.... Because you exceed worth, no matter what you've done or where you've been, you are here for a reason, you breath because you have purpose... you could live in the darkest times of your life, done the darkest deeds, said the Harshest words, hurt the purest people... and you would still exceed worth, you'd still be seen as perfect to God, you'd still deserve nothing less than the best for you. it's not about what you've done, it's about what you will do after that, and after that and after that... it's about always trying... persisting, moving forward, learning, and doing better the next time, or at least trying to do better. cos it's not about if you could do better or if you did a lot of good it's the trying that counts... there is nothing worse then giving up. 

strive for happiness for yourself and not just happiness of others. you can't make others smile if you don't know how... so look after yourself, love yourself, be a little selfish when it comes to your happiness... but don't disregard others happiness, understand that being happy is the first step to being able to help others feel joy... to get you need to give. To give, you first need to get. 

anyway it's been fun but I gotta make like a frog and leap... d[O0.]b <--- what I just say???

so, this is ButtonGirl popping in.......................... and falling off this coat.... peace.

POINTLESS POST!#@!#%^&*

Don't ask,,, the pic doesn't relate... I just thought it was cute... so, Brace yourselves... WARNING! INCOMING POINTLESS POST!!!!! :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D

so................................. was cleaning my room... and tidying it... and decided to sort out my neat piles of terribly organised (I just put stuff on stuff) mess... and found letters, yes as in the ones little girls write to each other when they're in high school ... yeah so... they're from when I was in high school (last year)... and they were all addressed to me (yay I was loved once upon a time!) ... I mean how strange that were not addressed to someone else!... I'd totally expect letters that were not mine to be in my room... ANYWAY!.. so there they were, so I read them, I wasn't being rude, they were mine anyway...

they weren't interesting,,, they were rather Lame... some funny... all about Boys... is that seriously what occupied the minds of the youth I dealt with in high school?.. the answer is yes, and it was all the same thing "I wonder does he notice me" "I get butterflies sometimes when I see him" "I like him so much it scares me" "it's frustrating that he doesn't notice me!"... blah blah blah!... this is good though, it's growth... it's the stage at which they needed/need to be... and in truth... watching older versions of these young ladies, nothing much has changed  and I don't suppose anything will... and it's not a bad thing... they're searching for "the one".. so eager... and the gushing and concerns they have will never go away till they find "the one"... well at least we hope the gushing won't go away, and the concerns - unfortunately- will be replaced with new ones rather than completely vanishing... the only thing that changes is... a certain maturity when dealing with these developing crushes over the years... you learn to be more brave, more patient... more understanding...

The most fascinating part of all of it... is the growth though, the journey... seeing the difference in these ladies over the years,,, it wasn't like they changed... it was like... more detail was added to them...
it made me understand why journals/ diaries,,, song books... all of why they were used and kept... sure it helps people rant out stuff - I prefer shouting - but... it's the looking back... that's the important part - why?!?!?!... because it helps you see that you had times where you thought you couldn't live you felt so much pain, and reading it, you can see the fears you had.. but being older you can see how small they were... and this is good, because it helps us see that the problems we face now... we'll be able to look back on... and be ok with... we'll be able to realise, we'll still be around in ten years, and we'll be ok in ten years...

so ya.... food for thought... I wish I grabbed all my letters back after writing them so I could have read them now... would've made me laugh I bet...  :)

Anyway, this has no doubt been a pretty pointless post... filled with nothingness... but, I still enjoyed typing it... :)

so... this is ButtonGirl Popping in.......................... and falling off this coat..... peace...

Lets play a little question Game on our show

"LETS ASK THE QUESTIONS?!?"

Our question for tonight - although it's morning - is....drum roll.... 

"If you were stuck on an island for three months.....and were only allowed one person with you.... and you would not die and neither would your guest... and you had an abundance of food - that tasted good .... and they'd be ok with coming no matter what... and the whether wasn't life threatening or too uncomfortable... WHO WOULD YOU TAKE???"

moment of consideration.... such a tough question!!!!!!!!... sweat drips down the forehead...

ok... we could choose... a lot of people, but who would you choose?.... who would I choose?... lets make a list of more questions and see who fits the bill...

1) ok, someone who doesn't irritate you

2) someone you find interesting...

3) someone you want to spend more time with

4) someone you can fight and smile with... cos it's not 100% happiness on this island...

5) someone whose going to help out no questions asked if you needed to build a fire and collect/hunt food <-- I might become a vegetarian at this point... or let someone else do the killing of innocent fragile creatures...

6) someone who won't trip you if a bear is chasing you guys...

7) someone who doesn't find you completely annoying... 

8) someone you would miss if for three months you'd vanish...

9) someone who would miss you if for three months you vanish...

10) and this is THE most important... someone you're incapable of living without... 

Hmmmmm?... got anyone in particular in mind????... yes?... then lucky you, you've won a trip for two to an abandoned island where you have to fend for yourself!!!!.... :D :D :D... ok, not really... but if you actually have someone fitting the bill... go and cry in a corner... because you're screwed if that person dies!... :P 

ok, serious jokes asside that I kinda meant, but laughed it off like a joke - awkward silence..... this Girls CRAZY!...  where DID you find her?!?!?!?... 

sigh...  ok, if your person DID NOT get 10 out of ten... or at least did not get number ten... then they are not viable to go with you to an island for three months unsupervised... 

so... what was the point of this RANDOM question Game show you ask?.... what DO these questions mean?... What AM I thinking?... 

Hmmm... good questions indeed... should I type them into www.ask.com for you?....

but what DO these questions mean?... what does it mean if you find yourself in a situation where you found someone who scored an amazing score?... what does it mean if they passed number ten?... what does it mean if you can't live without them?... can't breath without them... eat... sleep... what does that mean?... what does it mean if you can live without them?... if they can live without you?... 

a young foolish girl - which might have been me - once said, that no one ever really needs anyone... they just want them really really badly

she accepted that... you need a large amount of people around... for sanity sake so that you don't feel alone, like you're the only one... all that other hash... {{see I am legend for reference ;) }}but she felt like no one needs another singular person, people were replaceable, and interchangeable...

what is a need?... a need is something you have to have in order to survive... food, water, shelter... <--- basic needs... 

and I didn't see people fitting into that unless you ATE them for survival!!!!!  hmmmm YuMmMMMmmmY! - I'd never do that {{awkward laugh as she considers it -KIDDING}} - hence people were not needed... but. <-- yes she does redeem herself.... but, the way I see it, if you're fighting with someone and cannot eat due to the lack in speech between the two characters... no eating leads to anorexia, anorexia leads to DY!nG!!!!... people need food... and to consume food you might need set person,,,, conclution...

man needs food... food needs person.... cut out the middle man... man needs set person.... and here she thought she didn't need anyone... silly little foolish girl, who were you kidding, the minute you thought that God decided to line someone up to spite you!... Not that she minds - she likes getting her facts straight... 

sO.... H0w dO yOU fe3L???????  - great thanks :D

so, as much as she hates to get gushy.... cos she doesn't know how.... and as much as she hates to admit when she's wrong... wait... I'm not going to get into that... it's not how I roll

so, she'll end by saying... 

sometimes, we do need someone, whether it's a kid, a friend, husband, lover... sometimes, we need someone. and that there, is all folks... don't need to say more....

this is ButtonGirl.....popping in................... and falling off this coat..... peace.

Reputation...REPutaion R3pUt@Ti0N!!!!

what's the fuss about?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

Reputation, reputation reputation....

My mother always said that the most important thing for you to maintain is a good reputation. She was very proud of her reputation that she maintained -->"untouchable" as "someone who will beat you and stop before a murder charge if you even tried to touch her inappropriately..."  she was proud that men feared her and women hated her out of jealousy... she was perfectly happy with her reputation.
so, this got me thinking as a child - as it was impossible not to since it was brought up regularly - about my reputation, when I was in grade seven I was exactly like my mother. and when grade eight came around I decided I didn't want people to fear me - it's not exactly the best way to make friends you know - but what this saying also did was it made me consider how I want to be remembered.

a good thing yes?...NO!... a very very very bad thing.

lets evaluate what happened as I moved into high school.... I started to think about how I wanted to be remembered... I started to think about how I wanted people to think of me. I started caring more about what people thought about me. as a person. not what I wore or what I looked like. I considered my personality.
that is a dangerous ball to play with. REPUTATION.....

lets look at the definitions shall we?

wiki says - Reputation is the opinion (more technically, a social evaluation) of the group of entities toward a person, a group of people, or an organization on a certain criterion. It is an important factor in many fields, such as education, business, online communities or social status.


Reputation can be considered as a component of the identity as defined by others.

–noun

1.

the estimation in which a person or thing is held, especiallyby the community or the public generally; repute: a man ofgood reputation.

2.

favorable repute;  good name: to ruin one's reputation bymisconduct.

3.

a favorable and publicly recognized name or standing formerit, achievement, reliability, etc.: to build up a reputation.

OK so we need to understand that a good reputation is needed in some area's like business and education. having a good reputation amongst your fellow pears is not something that is desperately needed. As a 14 year old one does not need to worry about what people will think if she behaves in a certain manner.

REPUTATION. It seems to me that maintaining a certain reputation is a lot responsibility. A lot of pressure.


REPUTATION. I truly hate this concept.  how OTHERS view you. shouldn't we be more concerned about how WE view ourselves. "a good reputation is more valuable than money"... is not something you teach your kids, because you and your kids are being taught to categorise people, label them, label themselves, yourselves. you're teaching and learning judgement. worrying about a reputation is the doorway to insecurities and self loathing as well as judgement. it's not a happy door...it's a sad sad sad door! stay away little friends stay away!...

We shouldn't be growing up worrying about a reputation, children act out. Teens act out - heck Adults act out! we shouldn't worry that the moment we loose our temper or the moment we have too much to drink, the moment we find ourselves pregnant - that our reputation will be ruined.

REPUTATION is not what needs concentration. Concentrating on who we want to be - also a bad idea.
we should not concentrate on how others view us, and we should not concentrate on who we want to become.... because lets face it... at the start of teenage hood and into adulthood most of the time, none of us actually want to be who we are, we want to be someone else who we find much cooler than who we are. {{don't even try and deny it, the best of us feels that way at the worst of times....}}

CONCENTRATION. what we need to focus on is being ourselves. it sounds so cliché but it's true,,,, and we need to focus even more on being ok with screwing up and being able to look in the mirror after a humiliating experience, after a painful fight, after loosing our temper, after making the biggest mistake of our life and saying "yes, I screwed up, yes I'm not perfect, yes many people are going to talk about it for weeks and are going to insult me... but I'm still freaking awesome and I still love who I am right now"
It's not about a reputation. who cares what the population thinks of you?... who cares if the population thinks your a terrible person due to a mistake you made in high school . That's not important, what's important is realising that your God is the only one you need to impress and knowing that you don't have to impress him. what's important is learning to love the person you are now, the one making mistakes, not the person you'll become from those mistakes, the one right now who embarrasses you sometimes, who sometimes doesn't have proud moments, who has a lot of blonde moments and who screws up ROYALLY. that person. LOVE that person.

so I'd say shove you're theory on a good reputation being more valuable than money Mr. fortune in the cookie. The one thing that's more Valuable then all the riches and that good reputation crap... Is learning to love the person you're ashamed of sometimes that's in your mirror, is learning what really matters... you.
you matter, no matter what your reputation is. You matter, you are amazing and You should love it.

haha ... yeah...:}


so... this is ButtonGirl popping in....and falling off this coat......peace